Send This To The Friend Who Has An Unrequited Love
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One of the most difficult things to go through in life is unrequited love. While it can be romanticised and it can inspire some of the most beautiful poetry known to mankind – the person going through it, goes to hell. Unless it’s John Green. The author found the beauty in unrequited love as well. In the book, Will Grayson, Will Grayson he states:
“You like someone who can't like you back because unrequited love can be survived in a way that once-requited love cannot.”
Apparently a lot of people like looking for solutions to deal with their office crushes. A younger and more reckless version of myself would have found uber creative ways to tell my crush how I feel. Like I mentioned in my last post – nothing good ever comes from telling people how you really feel. But then I started thinking about everything that comes with getting a crush on someone. So I did what anyone in my shoes would do. Asked my followers on Instagram if they would tell their crush how they feel.
And I monitored this poll quite closely for 24 hours. The results, honestly, were not what I had expected. Most people, it turns out, would tell their crushes how they really feel.
I used to be these people even one year ago.
I was a firm believer of – if you like someone, you need to let them know how you feel. The worse thing that can happen is they would tell you that they do not feel the same way and you can both move on. But after the third fail, I think it’s safe to say that it’s okay to want to keep your feelings to yourself.
I am sure other people might argue that just because it did not work out doesn’t mean that it failed. In fact, in the novel, When We Collided by Emery Lord, there is a part I find particularly beautiful.
“That's the thing they never tell you about love stories: just because one ends, that doesn't mean it failed. A cherry pie isn't a failure just because you eat it all. It's perfect for what it is, and then it's gone. And exchanging the truest parts of yourself--all the things you are--with someone? What a slice of life. One I'll carry with me into every single someday.”
We are scared that things will not work out, that even if our unrequited love turns into requited love – it would not survive. That the only thing left would be heartache from the crush gone wrong. I guess every story, whether told or untold, has a beauty of its own.
And what I choose to do about my crush is only my business.