July 6, 2015

Motivational Monday: The First Limiting Belief

Dear Whoever Clicked the Link to Read this Post,

Have you ever secretly wanted to do/have/be something but put it out of your head because there was a voice inside your head telling you - "Are you crazy? That's never going to happen."? Well, maybe it's time to tell that ever persistent, insistent and rather annoying voice to shut the hell up. Tell that voice to go take a hike.

I became acquainted with the law of attraction back in the later half of 2009. However, it was not until 2013 that I began to understand it completely. As my interest grew, my life began to improve. :) And I am not here to preach at you and tell you how to live your life. I am just here to tell you I know what it feels like when your world begins to crumble away right in front of your eyes.



Instead let me just tell you the things that I've learned - the things that had actually held me back. (And sometimes still do: because after all, I am still human.) These things are called "limiting beliefs".
The first and the most important thing that I realized was I didn't love myself enough. I'd developed a very bad habit of criticizing everything about myself. As a result, I was terribly unhappy - because my constant fretting over not being good enough made me do miserably in school, made me get bad grades. I did not understand or like maths. And for a very long time I genuinely believed I was stupid. It didn't stop there...I believed that I was rather ugly, and that my life wouldn't amount to much. My sister and I went to the same school, and for the longest time I was known as her sister. It irked me people didn't learn my name. Now, because I did not know the law of attraction for years upon years I attracted into my life all the things that I did not want.

It was not until I watched The Secret (2006) and read You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay, that I realized what actually needed fixing was my train of thoughts. I made a conscious effort to think good thoughts about myself - and things completely changed. It is impossible to control your thoughts all the time. So I'd get a notebook and write down all the good things I could think of. See, there is a difference between self-love and arrogance. The problem is when you try to speak about the good qualities in you, people tend to put you down by saying, "God - stop boasting." We are made to feel bad about feeling proud of our achievements. Don't let them get to you. People don't usually like to hear that you're doing well in life because they might be at a bad place themselves. And misery loves company.



Please try to avoid falling prey to that. The more you join hands and crib about life, the more bullshit life will shovel back at you. What goes around, does indeed come back around.

I'd once wondered how far I'd go in the field of academics, and today I have an MPhil degree in Comparative Literature. (Of course a lot of people had a lot of things to say about that...but I have realized that it takes all kinds of people to make this world. And I am finally okay with it.)

Initially, I was driven to achieve my life's goals and dreams because I wanted to outdo some of the people who'd given me a hard time growing up. But now that I've grown up - I realize the best thing I can do is forgive them for making my life miserable and to let it go. I still get snarky remarks from them when I meet them at times. And believe me, I am tempted to put them right back in the places where they belong. (Hey - I'm only human and an almost newbie to this New Thought process.) But I always remind myself to take the higher road.

Because I don't wish to go back to where I'd to literally crawl my way out of. Trust me, it takes years to build a positive attitude and seconds to replace it with a negative one.

So for today, (if you have read this blog post) I want you to write at least 10 things about yourself that you like. The things you like could be your physical description (like your smile, your eyes, your hair colour), your qualities (e.g. you are kind to people, you help the stray animals), something you have achieved (hey, even getting at least ONE person to read this blog would count as an achievement in my book). Once you have finished making the list, go back and read it. Do you believe the list? If not, write another one. Read it again. Did you believe it?

Did some part of your brain scream, "You're a boastful little creature?" Tell that part to hush up, and read it again. Feeling better? :)



It takes a lot of practice. But you will get there. And once you begin to accept all the wonderful, beautiful things about you - you'll see the marked difference in the attitudes in the people around you. Remember: like attracts like. So if you treat yourself with love and respect, you'll find people who treat you with love and respect.

Until the next Monday,
Love from,
Aniesha. 

10 comments:

  1. Yep... needed this! Thanks. <3

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  2. inspiring indeed :) <3 thank you :)

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  3. Misery indeed loves company and a single negative thought does crumble a castle of positive ones.
    I'm anyway grateful to you for introducing me to this awesome world.
    Mondays from now shall have another reason to be great! :)

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    1. I am glad that you have embraced this awesome new world, love <3

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  4. Okay this was hardcore inspirational. :D Loved how you talked about self-realization. And yes, I am listing those 10 things down, gradually! :)

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    1. Keep writing them down, Soumya. You'd be surprised to know how many amazing qualities you have - and how little credit you give yourself. :P

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  5. Hi, thanks for writing this post. Like your's my world too crumbled in front of my eyes and because of my self doubts,low self esteem things became worst and then my sudden accidents added to it. Now I know I am not alone , things happened to you but unlike me you kept moving. You are an inspiration for me. :)

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    1. Hi Anonymous,

      I do not get notifications for new comments being added to my blog posts and hence never found your comment until today - when I was doing a manual search. :)
      Our worlds crumble the minute we stop believing in ourselves. And once we do that by the snowball effect; nothing in the world seems to be able to pull us out of it again.
      I had a hard time moving on. But trust me, one day you're going to wake up and everything that made you sad will feel like the a dot in the Universe. It might happen today or ten months from today. Take time to mourn and then jump back into life again.
      I am glad that this blog post could help you. Even a little bit.
      Try to watch The Secret. And good luck.
      Best wishes,
      Aniesha.

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